Tuesday, August 24, 2010
I started to read a blog that was written by a Mother. Her daughter was young and pregnant and choosing adoption even thought they were willing to help her. I know in the end.. the Mom to be even though young has the final say but it leaves me with one question.. Why can't family be enough? Especially if you were being raised in a good family? Why are they not good enough to help you. Adoption for most birth parents isn't something where your sad for a year and they go on to lead a normal life.. There is a lot of depression and self esteem issues for some. We tend to live with a case of the what if's and why didn't I do this.. I could have done it.. I am speaking from my experience and some other blogs that I have read. Adoption isn't the easy answer. It's not going to always be the best choice. If there is support and it's good support. Take it and run. Be a mother to your child, because I can tell you that you will feel like a mother even though your not and it hurts.If you choose and allow someone else to be your child's parent.. you are probably going to feel a lot of anger, jealosy and deep sadness. It doesn't mean that the adoptive parents are good to your/their baby.. It will be more about the fact that you are not his or her Mom. So, if your thinking about adoption and support is there.. really think hard. Don't assume you know how your parents feel. Ask them. Really consider raising your child.I have heard plenty of people regret their choice on adoption but never once have I heard anyone regret their choice to be a Mom.