It doesn't look like Alex has made any attempts to look for a job and my sister's boyfriend was questioning him about school and work and what are you going to do with your life. My son says he wants to be a counslor but admits he is lazy.
I have changed the times we will lock the doors for the night. It will be 11 pm all nights except for the three evenings I work late and am awake already. I know longer will stay awake to midnight so he can play. I am thinking of giving it a few weeks and making it ten pm. I am not in panic mode about the april deadline but close.
My husbnad doesn't think he will take us serious because we don't always follow thru with stuff. I suppose that's all of our faults. It's been such a challenge to bring him here and having him live 3 and half years living as his Dad's roommate to now a kid who is now actually an adult but without all the adult respsonsabilities.
My husband is suggesting that we soon only allow him to eat one meal a day. I don't know about that. Also what's to stop him from helping himself when we are asleep?
I am just so ready for him to be able to take care of himself. When I take care of Stephen's needs and wants I don't want to feel bad because Alex needs things. I am just very ready to take care of my youngest child and move on with my family of 3 or 4 but the 4th must be an helpful member of the family and not just out for a good time.
I think a lot of it is that Alex just wants to compare himself to Stephen and if Stephen gets that he should too. Hope that I can brag about his new job soon.
I have yet to give him a bus pass. I keep meaning to buy one on the same day I am in the area to petion the courts for a raise in child support and I keep stalling. It's the time I have to put into it and the stress of dealing with pissing of my ex.
It doesn't help Alex with the job searching that it's very cold here. But that can't be an excuse. Cold or not. People still need to earn a living and eat.