Saturday, November 6, 2010

My little sister called me to tell me that our Mom's dog got loose and was killed by two dogs. She was still alive when they got to the animal hospital but the injuries were just too severe. It would have been thousands of dollars with a slim chance of making it. My Mom loved her dog like many people love their animals. It makes me sad just thinking of it, because it has to be so sad.

I feel torn. Do I be the good daughter and run to my Mom's aid even though she hasn't really been the good Mom. It's not a easy thought process. Either option causes me a great deal of sadness. I feel like my Mom has checked out my life and just isn't really someone that I can even think of going to. She has showed me over and over that she just isn't able to emotionally handle the stress of being a Mother to me. She can't even seem to be a friend?

I called her and left her a message and told her how sorry I was that it had happened and that I loved her. It's true. I love my Mom. It's just she doesn't seem to love back or know how to get past her issues. It's such a sad thing.


Wendy said...

I'm really sorry about your mom's dog. She must be going through a really tough time right now.

I don't know what the right answer is to your question. You called her to let her know you care. Did she call you back? I guess when she calls you back you could ask her if she wants to talk to you in person about it.

I'm sorry things are so hard.

Campbell said...

Good for you to call. That's very kind, especially when your mom isn't there for you in a way that you need.

birthmothertalks said...

Thanks.My husband ran into my Mom and my brother and basically my Mom didn't even try to be friendly. I guess the story isn't that her dog got loose. It was attacked by someone who was walking their dogs and mom's dog was tied outside on a chain. The poor thing was helpless. So, far my Mom hasn't called back or emailed me back. I feel like I am the daughter that has been thrown out. Oh well, what can I do?

Campbell said...

You know what? There's really nothing except conduct yourself in a way that leaves you with no regret.

Some people just can't seem to see themselves in the way that they really are. I don't really know why this is but it is and they are very difficult people to have a good relationship (or any relationship) with.

Try not to let it eat you up. They say the best revenge is living well!