Saturday, November 27, 2010

family drama

I have been working on my scrapbook for Izzy for two years. I been after this aunt of mine for two years to go through her pictures and get some copies of my grandmother to me. One, I want it for the scrapbook and two I just want them for me. Both of my grandmother's died before I was born and I would love to see what they looked like.
My aunt is the oldest living child left and hasn't been too well. So, I kind of gave up asking until I found out my Dad was going to see her. I figure between my Dad, his wife and her and her daughter that someone could look through the photos and copy them for me.
My Dad refused. He said my aunt isn't well enough to do it and he wouldn't know for sure if he was looking at his Mom or his grandmother. Huh? Is he telling me that she has pictures of my grandmother and my great grandmother? And we can get them another time. It's just feel like an excuse after an excuse to me. I am about ready to give up. He says that the next time he is there or maybe I can take a trip to do it, but what's going to be the excuse this time. It wouldn't do me any good to go through them, because I wouldn't know who I was looking at either.
It is really making me sad. I have nothing to show that I had grandmother's. I feel like they are denying my requests to even see a picture.


Campbell said...

I'm sorry it's like this for you.

It does make me think about how adopted people feel cheated out of this connection to history biologically intact families supposedly have, but it's not a given. Connection to ancestors and information about them takes effort and a will to share.

Good for you to make a scrapbook for Izzy! I'd love to see something like that : )

birthmothertalks said...

I started the scrapbook as a suggestion from the counslor that I seen at the adoption agency. It has really helped me cope and in a small way feel connected before I had contact.
When I was writing that I kind of wondered if this is how some adoptees feel when they that they can't get the connection to ancestors but I didn't want to assume to think that it is the same thing as adoptees go through.

Katydid said...

My parents were adopted and I had only an adoptive grandmother living by the time I was born. I am sad for you. I know how it feels to be denied your past...I hope that someone has a change of heart for you..

I love that you are scrapbooking for Izzy.. Its a beautiful idea :)

With Love,