I got Izzy two matching candle holders and six candlee for them. She is also getting a pretty bath set that I got at Walgreens for a great deal. I got a gift for her and her fiance. It's a set of snoopy mugs and hot chocolate. I even picked up a five dollar stocking thing for her dogs. It's all gonna fit in the box but not with much room to kill.
The reason I am bringing my son is because I plan on taking him to the thrift store to try to find him some clothes that might look good for job unterview or even hunting as in asking about jobs. I am going to look into picking up a used coat and make sure he has gloves.
I plan on sitting down maybe with some lunch and telling him that he has four months from this date to have a job and pay rent or move out. I am nervous about this conversation cause sometimes things come out all wrong. I just can't afford to take care of his every needs. I really planned on his rent money giving me a little breating room. The amount my husband and I talked about was a minumin of 20 a week and a maxium of 40 a week. This was going to be based on his weekly pay check. If one week he had 32 hours he would pay 32 dollars. If he only worked ten hours he would still owes 20 dollars. It was hopefully going to be a reason to work.
I don't know what the future holds and not sure if I am ready for him not to live with me. It's that letting go part that is pulling at my heart strings when I really think of him moving out.
Right now my husband is so unhappy and pissed all the time. I get why he is upset on some of the things. He wakes up early and his favorite time of the day is our granddaughter's nap time. Alex disrespects that time by coming in and out and in and out. Also, by trying to talk to my husband while he is snoozing or reading a book.
My husband was really big on grownup time and certain times of the night kids don't wander thru the house and Alex comes and goes ect and there isn't adult time so much anymore.
Some of the areas I feel is petty is my husband feeling upset about Alex sharing his dinner with his GF. I guess tonight, while I was working, Alex ate half of his dinner and took the rest downstairs to his girlfriend. I find it's sort of cute and that's what my first husband did for me when we were teens.
I guess tonight Alex asked for chips and he doesn't really want to agree that he can eat the chips cause it's not his fault that he gave half of his dinner away and why should it cost him more money? I just find it petty. I figure at least he is asking instead of just taking which I thought was half of the battle.
Now, I get my husband being upset if Alex is going thru the cubbards after midnight when we all are in bed. My husband tends to be awake until at least midnight and is up at 6 am. He is a light sleeper and hears all the things going on in the kitchen.
I just hope I can get my message across without is all sounding about money and making him feel bad. I just want him to move forward with the next step of his life and that's taking care of himself.
If I treat Stephen to lunch or a movie or something else special I don't want to always feel like the bad guy not including Alex. Now if sometimes Alex had his own money it would be alright if he joined us.
Besides trying to round up some new gently used clothes for my son I plan on trying to do a couple other things to help him out. One is get him a pass for the bus. I firmly believe that jobs only come to those that hunt for them. As in checking in person and making yourself known. I am thinking about giving him one day a week for a few weeks where I would drive him to a couple places. I would probably have to cut back volunteering to do this. I don't mind trying to help him but he has to be willing to help himself too.
Wish me luck, I love my son very dearly and I feel like he is a good kid but could very easily end up with a crimminal record playing follow the leader with his friends.
One of our neighbors has implied that Alex lost his job for some kind of theft. I don't know how true that is or not.
Wish me luck and if you have any job hunting pointers send them my way.