Majority of this blog is about adoption loss. I am also the Mom to a 21 year old son and a 16 year old son. I am fresh out of adoption related topics so I will use this blog to write just about whatever is going on in my life and may throw in adoption and reunion in here when the urge hits me. I recently went thru a bad divorce. I know it was quick but I found love and that has brought me much needed happiness. I may write about my relationship at times.
Does anyone have any questions or topics that you would like to ask or have me blog about? Adoption or non adoption related.. Please feel free to ask and I will answer you.
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I am answering to your reply to my post over at Confessions of a Birthmom.:
I know exactly what you mean, I am struggling with this same issue right now. See my blog post:
One of the Moms I met who has been in reunion for 20 years now, still struggles with this issue. I find that very disheartening. She offered this quote from a friend who is dealing with stage 5 cancer; "I am not optimistic, but I am hopeful". I interpret the quote to mean for me in my adoption situation that, I am not optimistic that things will change between me and my children because of the circumstances surrounding our adoption situation, but I will try to keep an open heart or be hopeful that we can work into a relationship with the way things are now. It will never be the kind of relationhip I would like to have, where we are all extended family, me, the kids, and the adopted parents. I always thought it would be that way if they ever came searching for me, but the adopted parents refuse to have anything to do with me. After 3 and 1/2 years my children have both cut off contact. So I have no choice but to accept things as they are and move forward, if I want to have any kind of life for myself.
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I am answering to your reply to my post over at Confessions of a Birthmom.:
I know exactly what you mean, I am struggling with this same issue right now. See my blog post:
http://notesfrommyheart.blogspot.com/2010/06/no-escape.html
One of the Moms I met who has been in reunion for 20 years now, still struggles with this issue. I find that very disheartening. She offered this quote from a friend who is dealing with stage 5 cancer; "I am not optimistic, but I am hopeful". I interpret the quote to mean for me in my adoption situation that, I am not optimistic that things will change between me and my children because of the circumstances surrounding our adoption situation, but I will try to keep an open heart or be hopeful that we can work into a relationship with the way things are now. It will never be the kind of relationhip I would like to have, where we are all extended family, me, the kids, and the adopted parents. I always thought it would be that way if they ever came searching for me, but the adopted parents refuse to have anything to do with me. After 3 and 1/2 years my children have both cut off contact. So I have no choice but to accept things as they are and move forward, if I want to have any kind of life for myself.
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