Monday, July 6, 2009
I am afraid I might have been a little harsh on a soon to be adoptive parents blog. Sometimes, it's hard to just bite my tongue when something just doesn't sit right with me. It was about the adoption tax credit. It bugs me when adoptive parents complain about money. Well, for one I think adoption costs way too much. Also, I bet lack of money is a big reason birth parents place their children up for adoption. I can't quite find the words I want. I don't want to offend anyone. What I am thinking is that birth parents if they are placing because of lack of money and then adoptive parents get all this help, because they adopted then isn't it strange that the government can't help the Mothers of the children that are being adopted. So, I am not suggesting that I am against the tax credit, but sad that the need is so great. Maybe what I am trying to say is that it's sad that people who can afford to raise a family may lose the chance if they can't afford the high cost of adoption.
Adoptive parents who have been blogging have really helped me get to a happier place. I can see the love you all have for your children. Do I think it's anymore than you would have had you gave birth yourself? No. Do I think it's any less? No. So, I can now know that Izzy's parents love her just as much as me. And that makes me feel good. Also, I know Izzy's parents were a victim of the times.
On a happier note, I had my son help me with a page of Izzy's scrapbook. As were putting the stickers of fish in the ocean, I was telling him how the book was for Izzy. I haven't talked too much about her with him and I know he is at an age where he could still forget that I said that I had a daughter. He was really curious on how we would give it to her. Could we call her? Oh my God! Would that send them running? I told him that we can't call, but someday hopefully we can meet her and give it to her. He said, "Well yea, she is your kids still, she came out of you and not them. She has two Mommies. Wow!!! Even my little nine year old gets it.
Also, I asked my older son if he was still going to make a page for Izzy's book. He said yea and said that I had given him a idea to make his own scrap book. I don't know if he was just talking about making one or making her one. So, this week, I have talked about her to both kids.
The book about Birthmothers that I mentioned a few days ago was the best!! It did a excellent job explaining about the after effects of placing your children for adoption. I would be surprised if another book could do a better job. It's a must read for anyone who wants to adopt, or just wants to learn more.