Saturday, May 7, 2011

reunions

Has anyone that is a birthmother or adoptee in reunion suggested that the other person read any books to get a better idea of the things that the other person can relate to? If you have suggested that your birthmother or child (adoptee) read something how do you suggest such a thing without making it sound as if your complaining or unhappy with the relationship? I thought about this tonight and thought maybe if my daughter read some about birthmothers she would understand me more. Then, I got to thinking that my issues are my issues and don't need to be dumped on her.

1 comment:

jj said...

You could say that you have been reading various books on adoption (both adoptee and first mother point of view) and perhaps ask if she would like to read them.

Then it might sound more like you are sharing information.