Monday, July 4, 2011

Inconceivable by Carolyn and Sean Savage

I been wanting to read this book for a while now and I was able to get it from the library last week. I don't like to buy books because if it's a good one and if time allows me I can zip through them so fast.

My husband and I had talked about this situation before we ever even heard of this story of this book. The case is of a mistaken IVF transfer wasn't what we talked about.

It was more about is the loss of the baby from a birthmother felt because the baby is genetically hers or because she carried the baby for nine months. We have wondered how women who agree to be a surrogate feels about carrying the baby, giving birth and then handing it over to the DNA parents. Is it easier because they go the whole situation knowing that they baby they are carrying belongs to someone else.

Carolyn got pregnant because she wanted another member in her family and very early on they learn that the baby isn't theirs. She can choose to abort the pregnancy or carry the child to full term. However, she is told she can't keep the baby. I think they made an selfless decision and it's such a sad story. I say that because they attached to the baby and mourned his loss very closely to what a birthmother's may go through.

One thing that I think is different is that when a woman and man have sex and get pregnant in most cases they made a choice to not be careful or something went bad when it came to birth control. So, in a lot of cases of birthmom's there is some fault in the fact that the pregnancy occurred before she was ready for a baby. It's different in this story because it was a medical mistake. Someone did it to them. Also, they were ready and wanting to bring a baby into their home.

Well, I rambled on long enough. It's a pretty good book and I suggest it to others to read.

1 comment:

A Life Being Lived said...

I have been very curious about that book and their incredible and sad that they had to go through that. I agree the medical "mistake" was through absolutely no fault or risk of their own, they must have been completely devastated.