The cat is out of the bag

My ex sent me a text asking about the letter I sent since he isn't home to get it.

I replied. "ajustment of child support"

He replied, "you might think I am making more money but I am not. I am making minumin wage.

I didn't respond.

He wrote again. "I get 11 cents a mile and it's not as much as you think"

I wrote, Well, "alex is 18 so we need to get that adjusted.

He wrote, " I figure since I am behind that I just leave it for a bit"

My husband and I did some research and the company is team driving and getting they are sharing 22 cents for every mile the truck is running. So yes he is getting 11 cents but that's for time the other driver is driving too.

There is a chance that he is right that he isn't making THAT much money but who in the right frame of a mind drives over the road for McDonald's income.

This shot is the jeans that are boot leg! Can someone tell me what the difference is cause I thought if any of them fit it would be these because I thought it meant it had wider legs. It was less tummy room.

size 12

I was given a gift card today from the church I babysit for on Sunday morning for Christmas. They just gave it to me today and that means that every person (meaning clients and church) gave me a gift of some sort.

I feel so honored to get thanked in this way. It's been unexpected but well received. I have used the majority of the money for myself.

Today I went to get me some towels because I am tired of my son stealing mine LOL I went with purple and there is no way they can think the purple one is his since all the rest of the towels tend to be white or tanish.

I got in the shopping mood and deciced to try on some jeasn. I been wearing size 14 since I was about 35 lbs down but didn't buy it until I was 37 lbs down.

I am now 46.5 lbs done and wanted to try on size 12. I took two different styles. One was book cut and the other was regular size 12 jeans. I really didn't think that it would fit but what the hell. The boot leg didn't button until I did it on just my hips and stuff my tummy inside. It didn't look too well. The size 12 regular actually pulled up and zipped well.

I couldn't hold back! I bought the jeans and the towels which was about double of the gift card but I just went for it. I love how my husband hasn't tried to hard to cut my spending. It's not that I been spending tons. This is only my second brand new pair since I was a size 20.

I got fitted and bought fancy bras that are actually the right size but all that came from gift money.

I owe all the thanks to myfitnesspal. It's been an eye opener and has really made a difference in my life. I been at this since feburary 12th. My goal was one pound per week and I think I am right on target with my goal. I am 3 and half pounds away from my 50 pound loss. Go me!!

It's in the mail

I sent the notice of the court day to my children's father yesterday. It's certified mail and they said that they would try to deliever it on Monday and told me what they do if it goes undelivered. I know he isn't home to get the papers but wondering if his wife will accept it for him.

I am thinking of sending one to his work too but gonna give it time to see if I get cussed out in the next few days.

I am hoping that he isn't smart enough to realize that I am asking for it to be increased. All it says is asking for an adjustment due to his new job.

I feel better knowing that I have made this step to get the raise in child support. I made the court date pretty far away so he have plenty of time to make arrangemens.

I know there is always the chance that he isn't making as much as I think but both my Dad and my current husband have drove a semi and say it's a pretty good income level job.

The date is set!

I did it! I went and filed in court to drop Alex from child support and to request an adjustment on the support based on his new job. I also put in an request for my X amount of dollars that he is behind.

The date is the middle of next month. I went with plenty of time so no excuses about him not being able to be there. I didn't send them off yet. I will do that tomorrow.

I took Alex with me and I got his bus pass for ten rides and he has a bus schedule. Plus I gave him the money his Grandma gave him for Christmas. I suggested he use it as spending money so in some of the places he applies in he can casually get a soda or whatever and check on his application.

He told me he isn't sleeping the best. Says it's kind of cold in the basement and he gets all wrapped up and wakes up sweating. I am not sure what do about all of that. One of my regrets in house shopping is sort of not finding a 3 bedroom house in my price range.

I am going to file with the courts tomorrow to ask the courts to adjust child support based on my child's father's new job. Also will be requesting arrangments to be made for the child support that is behind. The good news is that its policy that if he gets time off that they double up on child support to make up for the missing payment. The ironic part is that they told me this after not doing it and then did turn around and take 3 payments from one check. However, they are breaking the payments in half due to his job paying weekly compared to the old job bi weekly.
I am nervous about starting this battle again and praying he doesn't get a bring idea to try for custody of Stephen to avoid paying. I will not let that happen!! My son has never lived with his dad since he was 5 or so and has never done the back and forth and we are not going there.

Happy new year!!! I really don't make a big deal out of it anymore. When I was married to my first husband he liked to ring in the new year at a bar or midnight bowling and we could drink and catch a free ride home with the county. I really don't miss those days. Well, the cops are always hot to look at but other than that I am okay with doing nothing and sleeping before midnight if I feel like it.

It doesn't look like Alex has made any attempts to look for a job and my sister's boyfriend was questioning him about school and work and what are you going to do with your life. My son says he wants to be a counslor but admits he is lazy.

I have changed the times we will lock the doors for the night. It will be 11 pm all nights except for the three evenings I work late and am awake already. I know longer will stay awake to midnight so he can play. I am thinking of giving it a few weeks and making it ten pm. I am not in panic mode about the april deadline but close.

My husbnad doesn't think he will take us serious because we don't always follow thru with stuff. I suppose that's all of our faults. It's been such a challenge to bring him here and having him live 3 and half years living as his Dad's roommate to now a kid who is now actually an adult but without all the adult respsonsabilities.

My husband is suggesting that we soon only allow him to eat one meal a day. I don't know about that. Also what's to stop him from helping himself when we are asleep?

I am just so ready for him to be able to take care of himself. When I take care of Stephen's needs and wants I don't want to feel bad because Alex needs things. I am just very ready to take care of my youngest child and move on with my family of 3 or 4 but the 4th must be an helpful member of the family and not just out for a good time.

I think a lot of it is that Alex just wants to compare himself to Stephen and if Stephen gets that he should too. Hope that I can brag about his new job soon.

I have yet to give him a bus pass. I keep meaning to buy one on the same day I am in the area to petion the courts for a raise in child support and I keep stalling. It's the time I have to put into it and the stress of dealing with pissing of my ex.

It doesn't help Alex with the job searching that it's very cold here. But that can't be an excuse. Cold or not. People still need to earn a living and eat.