Thursday, February 25, 2010
Does anyone know of a website or forum that is designed for husband's that are married to birthmother's? Somewhere they can get advice or support on how to deal with their wives? This is a big sore spot in our marriage and he has tried to find something but keeps coming up empty. He is not the child's father so has no connection to this child. I happen to be his second wife who placed a child for adoption.
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I don't know any to be honest. But me and my soon to be fiance have talked a lot about my daughter that I placed. And he's completely okay with the fact that she isn't his. I'm sure he'd be willing to talk to you about it if you want. There is also a blog called afchaptersmp.blogspot.com and there were some boyfriends/fiances who were dating birth moms who answered questions. My boyfriend was one of them, if that helps at all. :)
Thanks for the blogsite. My husband doesn't have a problem that she isn't his kid after all I didn't know him. It's more of how he handles my grief and is pretty mean to me about how I feel. He doesn't believe that women form a connection at birth. That it takes months before the bond is there.
Yeah, ask him to grow a baby inside of himself and tell him not to bond. WHAT. The bond starts when a girl finds out she's pregnant and going to be a mother. It's the little pee stick that connects us immediately. I think it's hard for him to realize that because that's probably how long it took him. He's not the one feeling the baby kick every single day and giving birth. Man, my boyfriend has told me that I don't need to get over Olivia that I can just move on. It's like losing someone to death in the family, placing a baby is like a loss, you don't get over them. You move on with life. And the grieving process can take however long you want/need.
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