tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post6827535545263200172..comments2023-10-09T09:11:30.032-05:00Comments on birthmomtalks: Thank youbirthmothertalkshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-73992223979279870512010-11-02T14:05:05.581-05:002010-11-02T14:05:05.581-05:00I hope for an open adoption for two reasons. #1 fo...I hope for an open adoption for two reasons. #1 for the child. the child we hope to adopt will want to know who his birth parents are, where they came from, why they might look, act, think different than we do. <br />#2 for the birth parents. I can't imagine how hard it must be to place a child for adoption. My heart breaks for them. I know that the birth parents are NOT the only ones who want to be apart of the child. There are birth grandparents and aunts/uncles... etc. <br />For me it just means more family. <br />I feel bad for those who have closed adoption. I feel the child will grieve not knowing and having to find them later or whatever. It saddens me.Karinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17154884929715917363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-21146941541615393892010-10-27T15:33:24.263-05:002010-10-27T15:33:24.263-05:00I definitely think you are on to something. Most ...I definitely think you are on to something. Most of my fellow adoptive mother's are in or desire open adoptions and the blogs they read reflect it (i.e. including blogs of first parents and adoptees). But those in closed adoptions (that prefer it that way) only follow other AP blogs. Also, I find that those who adopt internationally tend to only follow AP blogs. Both probably do so for out of site out of mind reasons.<br /><br />Even as an AP I find this sad. Mostly because I think about their child(ren) and whether or not they will receive the support they need as they develop their own identity and what it means to them to have been adopted.<br /><br />~ Jillriversnakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15806447073079809610noreply@blogger.com