tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post6641084945300931958..comments2023-10-09T09:11:30.032-05:00Comments on birthmomtalks: birthmothertalkshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-3467250398016745232012-03-10T13:30:05.145-06:002012-03-10T13:30:05.145-06:00Thanks Andrew, things were not always so good for ...Thanks Andrew, things were not always so good for us. We both have gotten a lot better.<br />Karen thanks for the question. I will have to think about this one and will make it a blog post.birthmothertalkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-88215596535281483822012-03-10T11:48:32.925-06:002012-03-10T11:48:32.925-06:00I deal with so many challenged relationships on my...I deal with so many challenged relationships on my site, so it's refreshing to hear about a healthy "I'm sorry" and a strong relationship. Good for both of you! :)Andrew McAllisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210761023973607515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-38578134872331236192012-03-10T10:20:27.027-06:002012-03-10T10:20:27.027-06:00Yesterday, my adoptive daughter and I were in the ...Yesterday, my adoptive daughter and I were in the van and we started talking about her own adoptive situation. She was abandoned by her birth parents in China. But there is no "adoption plan" in China, other than abandonment. I talked to her about MY thoughts of her birth parents. I told her that I believe in my heart that her birth mother did not want to leave her. It's only a feeling, but it's a strong one. And I told her the difference between what we actually know and what I believe to be true. I also told her that some people in her life, especially some of her friends as she gets older, will not understand adoption, and they might assume her birth parents did/do not care about her to let her go. <br />I really appreciate it when you have guest bloggers on here. But I would also like to ask you at this time...If you were in charge of what daughter's a-parents said to her as she was growing up, what would you have wanted them to say to your daughter about you? And at what point is it healthy and what point would it be difficult for your daughter to know about your adoption plan? How much is too much?Family Bitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05921264889019357773noreply@blogger.com