tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post5134498695166090662..comments2023-10-09T09:11:30.032-05:00Comments on birthmomtalks: Walk in my shoesbirthmothertalkshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-58949114116751854022010-07-05T00:26:52.130-05:002010-07-05T00:26:52.130-05:00I am sorry that you're having to deal with neg...I am sorry that you're having to deal with negativity. Hope it gets better. <br /><br />I came by to tell you thanks for the comments. I know you have a different vantage point than I do, but I appreciate your responses. Everyone needs validation. This is such a crazy journey.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08073625813017871573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-56253135076751765582010-07-04T23:39:56.381-05:002010-07-04T23:39:56.381-05:00((hugs))
No one knows a mother who has lost a chi...((hugs))<br /><br />No one knows a mother who has lost a child to adoption's pain like another mother who has also lost a child to adoption. It is completely ignorant for anyone to assume to know what they would do if they were you.<br /><br />Even when mothers aren't forced to sign those papers and had their babies taken away, it is traumatic. I agree with Von, adoption is cruel.<br /><br />I do know how you feel about people not wanting to listen to you and/or telling you how to feel. As an adoptee, I have experienced that my entire life. I have been compared to abortion, been told to be "grateful," endured ignorant comments about how my Original Family/Mother "must" be by people who don't even know them, been called "disloyal" for reuniting, have been told by a million people "I wish I were adopted!", or have been told "I have a cousin who is adopted and she's fine"...I could go on. The second I say something that doesn't exude the sunshine and rainbows of adoption, I'm the one who is angry and dellusional.<br /><br />When in fact, I am the one, and so are you, that people should be listening to. No one has experienced adoption like a First Mother or adoptee has.<br /><br />Adoption is "wonderful" because the rest of the world believes it makes no impact on anyone. They believe the baby is obvlivious to the change of mothers and that when the adoptee grows up, if they were "loved" enough, that what they've lost shouldn't mattter. They expect First Mothers to go on and "get over it." When First Mothers and adoptees start speaking out about not "going on and getting over it" or feeling loss, we start to discover that perhaps adoption didn't serve everyone as well as it claims. But no one wants to admit that. No one wants to admit that adoption creates a family based on a tremendous loss of both a child and an Original Family.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-68815467033151565472010-07-04T13:21:19.022-05:002010-07-04T13:21:19.022-05:00Hi, no-one knows but you.My own mother never recov...Hi, no-one knows but you.My own mother never recovered, adoption is cruel and wrong.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-70334536364183994362010-07-04T12:25:27.426-05:002010-07-04T12:25:27.426-05:00I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing this...I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing this, and hope that whoever is judging reads this post carefully.<br /><br />The experts about any experience are those who live them. You are living the experience of losing a child to adoption. Your feelings are real and valid.Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.com