tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post1027452488306816384..comments2023-10-09T09:11:30.032-05:00Comments on birthmomtalks: Something differentbirthmothertalkshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-85471711836485199032010-03-28T09:02:41.564-05:002010-03-28T09:02:41.564-05:00What Amanda said.
I thank God I have a relationshi...What Amanda said.<br />I thank God I have a relationship with my daughter's First Mother and I would not enter into a closed adoption for the reasons she stated. (Among other things.)<br /><br />-A mom through adoptionCathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15840370708098022422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-45698104696550382752010-03-26T00:32:22.557-05:002010-03-26T00:32:22.557-05:00Your blog is not depressing, it is rare. And that...Your blog is not depressing, it is rare. And that is NOT a bad thing.<br /><br />The problem is, adoption is commonly seen through the "gain" perspective. In reality, adoption is a "gain" in the context of intense loss...loss the child experiences as well as his/her mother experiences. Loss is not fun for anyone to focus on...especially if it is someone who has "gained" from that loss.<br /><br />My Adoptive Parents, whom I love very much, were told by the agency that I was unwanted. They were told that my First Mother gave me up because she wanted to "get on with her life." When I finally found her and found that she had never wanted to give me up in the first place, had pined over me my entire life and had called the agency for years trying to find out if I was alright (only for the agency to lie to her and then turn around and lie to us about her again and again)....they were shocked. It's painful to know that you "gained" at someone elses' expense. They wanted to adopt...but they NEVER wanted to adopt in that context. Losing me to adoption was a life-altering experience for her. If that makes people uncomfortable--OH WELL. It is a part of adoption people desperately need to hear about. Many of the losses that take place are NOT necessary if only there were education and resources in place for young mothers! If we don't draw attention to it--who will? Who will help these women and their children?<br /><br />My blog is depressing too lol. I'm one of those Adult Adoptees who had a great childhood but still complains. Something about having your teenaged, unwed First Mother fearmongered out of parenting you (by one of the largest, most prominent and powerful agencies in the world, mind you) does that to ya :-)<br /><br />((hugs))The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-87033714373674580502010-03-24T17:49:21.329-05:002010-03-24T17:49:21.329-05:00good for you!!live life and love! lolgood for you!!live life and love! lolsoultivityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195446828739061364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-76361845005332421172010-03-24T16:55:12.923-05:002010-03-24T16:55:12.923-05:00Sounds like you have some good things to be thankf...Sounds like you have some good things to be thankful for :)Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10463243543517574653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6684198844095157210.post-71888652065245104342010-03-24T12:36:31.463-05:002010-03-24T12:36:31.463-05:00It's always nice to hear when people have good...It's always nice to hear when people have good and positive things going in in their lives. Life is so full of the good with the bad, it's nice to hear both sides. :-DLeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14912857890584533572noreply@blogger.com